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1) THE DAY ON WHICH A VIRGIN IS MARRIED

(a) (Mishnah): A virgin is married on Wednesday, and a widow on Thursday.

1. In cities, Beis Din meets on Mondays and Thursdays. If the Chasan finds that she is not a virgin, he will promptly go to Beis Din.

(b) (Gemara - Rav Yosef): Rav Yehudah taught that the reason a virgin is married on Wednesday is as we learned in a Mishnah:
(c) (Mishnah): If the time set for the Chupah came, and they were not married, the groom must pay for the bride's food; if he is a Kohen, she is allowed to eat Trumah.

1. Now that our Mishnah says that the Chupah should be on Wednesday, if the time for the Chupah came on Sunday, the groom need not feed her until Wednesday.

(d) Question (Rav Yosef): Why does he attribute a Mishnah which was taught to one which was not taught?!

1. Question on the question: That is not so - both Mishnahs were taught!

(e) Clarification of the question: Why does he attribute the reason for a Mishnah which gives its reason, to a Mishnah which does not give a reason?
(f) Retraction: Rather, Rav Yehudah said the following: a virgin is married on Wednesday, so if the groom finds that she is not a virgin, he will promptly go to Beis Din the next day.
(g) Question (Rav Yosef): Let her be married on Sunday, and he can go to Beis Din on Monday!
(h) Answer: Chazal deliberated to help the bride, that the groom should exert for 3 days preparing the Chupah meal.

1. Now that we learned that a virgin is married on Wednesday, if the time for the Chupah fell on Sunday, since he cannot marry her until Wednesday, he need not feed her until then.

(a) (Rav Yosef): If the time for the Chupah falls before Wednesday, the groom need not feed the bride until Wednesday; so too, if one of them becomes sick, or she becomes a Nidah, he does not have to feed her.
(b) Some learn that this was a question: if he became sick, does he have to feed her?

1. Perhaps we should say no, because the delay of the Chupah is beyond his control, just as when the time for the Chupah fell before Wednesday.
2. Or, perhaps he must feed her; this is unlike the case where the enactment of Chachamim delayed the Chupah.

(c) Question: If he must feed her when he falls sick, what if she falls sick?

1. Perhaps he is exempt - he can say, I am ready!
2. Or perhaps, she can say, your field was flooded (i.e. I am your responsibility; my sickness is your bad luck).

(d) Question: If he must feed her when she falls sick, what if she becomes Nidah?

1. If this was the normal time for her to become Nidah, she cannot say, it is his bad luck.

2. The question is if she becomes Nidah at an abnormal time.
3. Perhaps she can say, your field was flooded.
4. Or, perhaps since there are women with erratic menstrual cycles, this is like becoming Nidah at the normal time.

(e) Answer (Rav Achai): A Mishnah teaches, if the time came and *the women* were not married, they eat his food and may eat Trumah.

1. The connotation is that the women are causing the delay.
2. If the women are delaying - why are they fed?
3. Rather, it must be that it is beyond their control (i.e. they became sick or Nidah), and we see that they are fed!

(f) Rejection (Rav Ashi): We can explain, whenever they cause the Chupah to be delayed, they are not fed.

1. In the Mishnah, the men caused the delay. The Mishnah only said '*the women* were not married' because the first part of the Mishnah was speaking about the women.

(a) (Rava): By Gitin (documents of divorce), we do not exempt one who is Anus (unable to do as he wants), i.e. if he gave a Get on Tanai (condition), even if circumstances beyond his control cause fulfillment of the Tanai; the Get is valid.
(b) Question: What is Rava's source?
(c) Attempted Answer#1 (Mishnah): 'This is your Get if I don't come within a year' - if he dies during the year, the Get is invalid.

1. We infer, if he got sick, the Get is valid!
2. Rejection: Even if he got sick, the Get is invalid - the Mishnah teaches that a Get cannot take effect after death.
3. Question: But the Mishnah already taught this - 'This is your Get ... after (my) death', is invalid!
4. Retraction: Rather, we say that the end of the Mishnah (if I don't come within a year ... ) comes to argue on Raboseinu who say that the Get is valid (and we may not infer that if he got sick, the Get is valid).

i. (Rav Yehudah): Raboseinu are the Beis Din that permitted us to use the oil of Goyim; they hold as R. Yosi, who says that the date on a document shows that it takes effect from that day (and therefore, the Get takes effect before the husband dies).

(d) Attempted Answer#2: The end of that Mishnah teaches, 'This Get should take effect from now if I don't come within a year - if he dies during the year, the Get is valid.

1. We infer, if he got sick, the Get is also valid!

(e) Rejection: Perhaps the Get is only valid if he dies, since his intention was that his wife should not become subject to Levirate marriage.
(f) Attempted Answer#3: It occurred that a man gave a Get on condition that he does not return within 30 days. He was returning on the 30th day, but was delayed because the ferry was on the other side. Even though he was trying to return, Shmuel ruled that the Get is valid.
(g) Rejection: Perhaps a common Ones is different - since he should have stipulated what will be in such a case, but neglected to do so, he accepted on himself whatever will happen.
(h) Answer#4: Rava's law is a decree on account of righteous women and immoral women.