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Moed Katan Chart #8
Moed Katan Daf 21b
WHEN IS IT PERMITTED TO GREET AN AVEL ("SHE'EILAS SHALOM"),
TO COMFORT AN AVEL, AND FOR AN AVEL TO RETURN ONE'S GREETING?
FOR AVEL TO
FOR AVEL TO
TO GREET AN AVEL WITH
||First 3 days(2)
||3 - 7 days
||7 - 30 days
||30 days - 12 mos.
(1) This refers only to initiating a verbal greeting. It is permitted to nod
one's head as one does when greeting his friend (RITVA 27a).
(2) The first 3 days of Aveilus are the most stringent, since the body of the
deceased has not yet begun to decompose and to provide atonement for the soul
(see Shabbos 151b).
(3) Instead of returning the greeting, the Avel should reply, "I am an Avel."
(4) It is permitted, however, for the Avel to initiate a greeting to a large
(5) For the sake of peace, it is permitted to return a greeting of "Shalom"
to one who initiated a greeting unaware that the person is an Avel.
(6) It is permitted, though, to comfort him "indirectly" ("Min ha'Tzad"),
which means comforting the Avel without mentioning the name of the deceased.
When one is an Avel for a parent, it is permitted to comfort him until 12
months have passed.
(7) The Heter to greet an Avel with "Shalom" applies only when he is mourning
for a relative who is not his parent. It is prohibited to greet one who is an
Avel for a parent until 12 months have passed.
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