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Prepared by Rabbi N. Slifkin
of Kollel Iyun Hadaf, Yerushalayim
Rosh Kollel: Rabbi Mordecai Kornfeld
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Previous daf Nedarim 65
1) A VOW MADE TO A PERSON
(a) (Beraisa): Reuven vowed not to get benefit from Shimon -
he may only annul his vow in front of Shimon.
2) BORDERLINE NOLAD
(b) Question: What is the source of this?
(c) Answer (Rav Nachman): "Hash-m said to Moshe - in Midyan
go, return to Egypt, for all the men have died" - since
he vowed in Midyan, he must go to Midyan to annul his
1. "va'Yo'EL Moshe" - ALah is the language of an oath -
"(He made a covenant with him) and brought him in an
(d) "(Tzidkiyahu) also rebelled against Nebuchadnetzar, who
made him swear by Hash-m's name".
(e) Question: What was his rebellion?
(f) Answer: He had seen Nebuchadnetzar eat a live hare;
Nebuchadnetzar made him swear not to reveal this.
1. Later, it pained Tzidkiyahu to keep the secret; he
annulled his oath and revealed the matter.
2. Nebuchadnetzar heard that people were debasing him
for having eaten a live hare. He summoned the
Sanhedrin and Tzidkiyahu.
i. Nebuchadnetzar: Look what Tzidkiyahu did - I
made him swear by Hash-m's name that he will
ii. Sanhedrin: He annulled his oath.
iii. Nebuchadnetzar: May one do that?
iv. Sanhedrin: Yes.
v. Nebuchadnetzar: In front of the one he swore
to, or even not in front of him?
vi. Sanhedrin: Only in front of him.
vii. Nebuchadnetzar: Why did you annul his oath when
I was not there?
viii.(R. Yitzchak): "(The Sanhedrin) sat on the
ground; the Chachamim of Tziyon were silent" -
the pillows they were sitting on were removed.
(a) (Mishnah): R. Meir says, there are cases which resemble
Nolad, but are not really Nolad; Chachamim argue.
1. 'I will not marry Plonis because her father is
evil'; they told him that he died or repented;
(b) (Gemara) Question: But death is Nolad!
2. 'I will not enter this house, for there is a vicious
dog or a snake inside' - they told him that it died.
(c) Answer #1 (Rav Huna): It is as if he made his vow
contingent on something else.
(d) Answer #2 (R. Yochanan): The case is, they told him that
he already died or repented before his vow.
(e) Question (R. Aba - the next Mishnah): ''I will not marry
Plonis because she is ugly' - and she is actually pretty;
'because she is black, or short' - and she is really
white, or tall; - he is permitted;
3) WAYS TO PROMPT REGRET
1. This is not because she was ugly or black or short,
and she became pretty or white or tall - rather, the
vow was a mistake from the beginning.
2. This fits well according to Rav Huna - our Mishnah
teaches about making a vow contingent, and the next
Mishnah teaches about a mistaken vow.
3. But according to R. Yochanan, both our Mishnah and
the next Mishnah teach the law of a mistaken vow!
i. This is left difficult.
(a) (Mishnah - R. Meir): (Reuven vowed not to get benefit
from Shimon -) we may prompt Reuven to regret his vow by
telling him what the Torah says;
1. We say: 'You are transgressing "Do not take
vengeance and "Do not bear a grudge" and "Do not
hate your brother in your heart" and "Love your
fellow man as yourself";
(b) If he says, 'Had I known this, I would not have vowed',
he is permitted.
2. Also, "Your brother will live with you" - if Shimon
will become poor, your vow forbids you to support
3. Had you known this, would you have vowed?'
(c) (Gemara - Rav Huna Bar Rav Ketina) Question: (Why does
Reuven transgress "Your brother will live with you" -)
why can't he say, it is not incumbent on me to
(personally) support Shimon!
1. I and all others must support all the poor - (I will
give money to the Tzedakah collector; if he gives
that money to Shimon, he benefits Shimon, not me)!
(d) Answer (Rabanan): Shimon might request from you before he
requests from the Tzedakah collector (and Reuven will
(e) (Mishnah): We prompt regret by telling a man that he will
have to pay his wife's Kesuvah.
1. There was a case; Reuven vowed not to benefit from
his wife; her Kesuvah was 400 Dinars.
(f) (Gemara) Question: Is there really a lien on Metaltelim
(movable objects, such as money) to pay a Kesuvah?!
2. R. Akiva: You must pay the Kesuvah.
3. Reuven: My father left 800 Dinars when he died; I
and my brother each received 400. Isn't it enough
that my wife takes 200, and I the other 200?!
4. R. Akiva: Even if you have to sell the hair on your
head, you must pay her Kesuvah!
5. Reuven: Had I known that, I would not have vowed.
6. R. Akiva permitted the vow.
(g) Answer (Abaye): No - his father left him land worth 800
(h) Objection: But R. Akiva told him, he must sell his hair
to pay the Kesuvah, and this is Metaltelim!
(i) Answer: No - he meant, she will collect her Kesuvah from
(all) your land, even if you will be forced to sell your
hair in order to eat.
(j) We infer from our Mishnah that when forcing a debtor to
pay, we do not leave him basic necessities (food and
(k) Rejection (Rav Nachman Bar Yitzchak): No - really, we
leave him basic necessities