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1) WAYS TO PROMPT REGRET

(a) The Mishnah teaches that even if he gives all he has now, if this does not fully pay the Kesuvah, we do not tear the Kesuvah. (Whenever he will get more money, he must pay the balance.)
(b) (Mishnah): We may prompt a person to regret his vow by pointing out that the vow includes Shabbos and Yom Tov.
(c) At first, it was thought that only Shabbos and Yom Tov are permitted (after regret); R. Akiva taught, a vow that was partially permitted is totally permitted.

1. 'Konam, none of you may benefit from me' - if he becomes permitted to 1 of them, he is permitted to all of them;

(d) 'May not benefit from me - not this one, nor this...' - if the first becomes permitted, all are permitted; if the last becomes permitted, the others remain forbidden.
(e) 'Benefit I give to this person should be as a sacrifice; to this one, as a sacrifice, ...' - to annul them, a separate regret is needed for each vow.
(f) 'Wine is forbidden to me, for it harm the intestines'; he then heard that old wine is good for the intestines; 'Onions are forbidden to me, for they harm the heart'; he then heard that onions of Kufri are good for the heart;

1. He becomes permitted to all wine and onions; such a case occurred, and R. Meir permitted all onions to him.

(g) (Gemara): If the first becomes permitted, all are permitted; if the last becomes permitted, the others remain forbidden.
(h) Question: As whom is our Tana?
(i) Answer (Rava): R. Shimon, who says that one who forbids several people by an oath, it is considered 1 oath unless he mentions the word 'oath' by each one.
(j) (Mishnah): 'Wine is forbidden to me ...'
(k) Question: Why must we say, he annuls the vow for he did not know that old wine is good for the intestines - even if it was neither good nor bad, he may annul the vow!
(l) Answer (R. Aba): True - the Mishnah says, he is permitted because old wine is not bad for the intestines; in fact, it is good for them!
(m) (Mishnah): We may prompt regret by suggesting that a person should be concerned for his own honor and that of his children.

1. 'Had you known that people will say about you, your way is to divorce women; they will say that your daughters were born (out of wedlock) after the divorce of their mother - that you must have seen reason to divorce her (infidelity)' - would you have vowed?
2. If he says, 'Had I thought of this I would not have vowed', it is annulled.

(n) ''I will not marry Plonis because she is ugly' - and she is actually pretty; 'because she is black, or short' - and she is really white, or tall; - he is permitted;

1. This is not because she was ugly or black or short, and she became pretty or white or tall - rather, the vow was a mistake from the beginning.
2. There was a case: Reuven vowed not to marry his sister's daughter. They took her to R. Yishmael's house; they prettied her up

i. R. Yishmael: Did you vow from this girl?
ii. Reuven: No.

3. R. Yishmael permitted the vow; he cried. 'Bnos Yisrael are pretty - poverty dampers their looks!
4. When R. Yishmael died, Bnos Yisrael lamented; also when Sha'ul died.

(o) (Gemara) Question: The case brought contradicts the law of the Mishnah (that if she was ugly and became pretty, the vow is not permitted)!
(p) Answer: The Mishnah is abbreviated - it reads thusly: R. Yishmael says, even an ugly girl, and she became pretty; black, and she became white; short, and she became tall (the vow is permitted);

1. There was a case: Reuven vowed not to marry his sister's daughter. They took her to R. Yishmael's house; they prettied her up.

2. Beraisa: The girl had lost a tooth, and had inserted a tooth in its place; R. Yishmael made her a gold tooth from his own money.

(q) When R. Yishmael died, he was eulogized thusly: Bnos Yisrael, lament R. Yishmael, that clothes you ...

(a) Reuven vowed that his wife may not benefit from him until she gets R. Yehudah and R. Shimon to taste her cooking.

1. R. Yehudah tasted it - to make Shalom between a man and his wife (a Sotah), the Torah allows Hash-m's name, written in Kedushah, to be erased into water - all the more so, I will help make Shalom!
2. R. Shimon did not taste it - 'All the children of the widow should die, and I will not budge (Rosh - to lower the dignity of a Chacham, and) so people should not vow freely.

(b) Reuven vowed that his wife may not benefit from him until she spits on R. Shimon Ben Gamliel; she spit on his garments (and the vow was permitted).

1. Objection (Rav Acha from Difti): But her husband intended for a disgrace!
2. Answer (Ravina): Spitting on R. Shimon Ben Gamliel's garments is a great disgrace.

(c) Reuven vowed that his wife may not benefit from him until she shows something nice about her to R. Yishmael b'Rebbi Yosi.

1. R. Yishmael b'Rebbi Yosi suggested, perhaps her head is nice? He was answered - no, it is round.
2. In searching for something nice about her, he learned that her hair is as flax, her eyes are round, her ears are big, her nose is (shriveled and appears) closed, her lips are thick, her neck is thin, her stomach is inflated, her feet are wide as a goose, and her name is Lichluchis (dirty).
3. R. Yishmael: Her name is nice (fitting), for she is dirty with blemishes!

(d) A man from Bavel came to Eretz Yisrael and got married. His wife did not understand his language, and on 3 times did contrary to his request, which angered him.

1. Her husband: Break these lamps on the Reisha d'Bava (the head of the porch).
2. Not understanding that Bava means porch, she broke them on the head of Bava Ben Buta, who was there judging a case.
3. Bava Ben Buta: Why did you do this?
4. The wife: My husband told me to.
5. Bava Ben Buta: You did your husband's request - Hash-m should give you 2 sons as myself!

3) ANNULMENT OF THE HUSBAND

(a) (Mishnah): An engaged Na'arah - her husband and father may annul her vows;