|Please note: This issue deals with the
chagim and is not developed from the Chabura of the Shulchan Aruch Learning Project.
If ones husband has not yet returned from
shul after Yom Kippur, or if one feels weak before Maariv after Yom Kippur,
may one eat or drink?
The Shulchan Aruch 1says that it is
forbidden to eat any food or drink, except for water, before havdalah. Therefore,
if the housewife is waiting for her husband to make havdalah it is advisable in
such a situation to drink water, because we see that water is permitted before havdalah.
However, she should either say Boruch hamavdil bein kodesh lchol, or have
said ata chonantanu in maariv, before drinking. 2
As for drinking water before maariv after it
is already nighttime, the Elef HaMagen 3on the Mateh Efrayim says
that he may, only that he should drink in private so that others will not learn from him
to drink before nighttime. He should also say Boruch Hamavdil before drinking.
If my Yom Kippur candle extinguished
before managing to make havdalah, what am I supposed to do with regards to a new
Although we make a brocho over fire after
Shabbos and after Yom Kippur, in essence they are very different.
After Shabbos the brocho is made over fire to
offer praise to Hashem for bestowing Adam HaRishon with the inspiration to
strike two flints together and bring forth fire. This happened after Shabbos and hence we
praise Hashem also after Shabbos.
The brocho over fire after Yom Kippur is to
demonstrate that fire was prohibited for use throughout Yom Kippur even for cooking,
unlike other Festivals, and is now permitted. 4
For this reason one must make the brocho over
a fire that was alight on Yom Kippur and not over a fire lit after Yom Kippur,5
to demonstrate that this very fire was prohibited to use until now and from now it is
Therefore the best advice is to light a candle before Yom
Kippur that will be used for making the brocho after Yom Kippur.6
One should not rely on the gas flame used for heating food, because lchatchila one
should use a flame that was used for light.7 If the candle extinguished before
managing to make the brocho, one must make an effort to light a candle (or
match) from a candle or fire that was alight on Yom Kippur and make a brocho
on that.8 In such circumstances one may light a candle from the gas range that
was alight on Yom Kippur.
What if I cannot get hold of a candle
that was alight before Yom Kippur, may I light a candle and make a brocho
One may not make a brocho over a candle lit
from matches after Yom Kippur. However, the poskim write 9that one may
make a brocho on an electric light (a regular light bulb, not a fluorescent
bulb) that was on before Yom Kippur, because it is regarded as fire and suitable for the brocho.
Are children or ill people who are
required to eat on Yom Kippur permitted to wash before bread, and if yes, how?
It is forbidden to wash oneself on Yom Kippur or to even
insert ones finger into water for that matter, when done for pleasure.10
However washing for a mitzvah is not called a pleasure and is permitted. 11
Therefore, upon awaking in the morning or coming out of the
bathroom one washes his hands, although he washes only until the ends of his fingers, as
that is adequate enough to meet his halachik requirements.
However, we find that the Cohanim must wash their entire
hands 12before blessing the people, because their prescribed halacha
requires them to wash the entire hand, and since it is not done for pleasure it is
The poskim 13learn from there that the
same applies to children and to the dangerously ill when washing hands for eating bread on
Yom Kippur, as the major opinion requires the entire hand to be washed before partaking of
What is the halacha with regards
to Yaaleh Vyavo in bentching with regards to children or ill
Children and dangerously ill people who are permitted and
required to eat on Yom Kippur, when eating bread must say Yaaleh Vyavo when
bentching because Yom Kippur is a Yom Tov. 14Kiddush however, is
not made before eating and lechem mishne (two whole breads) is not used, because Chazal
did not institute these halachos on Yom Kippur. 15
If one forgot to say Yaaleh Vyavo and he
ended off the brocho Boneh Yerushalaim, he does not bentch again. 16
 Simon 299:1.
 SSK 62:25 and footnote 59. This is in contrast to motzei Shabbos where
one may drink water without saying Boruch hamvdil, because on Yom Kippur one was
forbidden to drink.
 Simon 624:4.
 MB simon 198:1.
 Shaar Hatsiun simon 198:2 and MB 624:7.
 MB 624:13, because some say that the candle lit in honor of Yom Kippur is
inadequate for havdalah being that it was not lit for light. I suggest using the
candle lit in the bedroom, as prescribed by the Rama in simon 610:1, as that
was used as light.
 See SSK 62:33, footnote 78.
 Rama 624:5.
 Tshuvos Vhanhagos vol. II simon 302. See Piskei
Tshuvos 624 footnote 38.
 Simon 613:1.
 Simon 613:2
 MB simon 613:7. See the Elef LaMateh on the Mateh Efrayim
 See the Piskei Tshuvos 613 footnote 6.
 Simon 618:10.
 Shulchan Aruch HaRav simon 618:18.
 MB 618:29.
Wishing you and your family and all of Klal
Yisroel a Gmar Chasima Tova and we should all have a good and sweet year.